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Women who say “I feel selfish” when it comes to taking the time for their health.
As a health coach I can’t tell you the amount of times I have heard my female client’s say. “I feel selfish”…….. taking time for themselves, when I ask them about what sort of activities they are doing to promote good health. This frustrates the hell out of me. WHY? Do women feel selfish for taking the time to look after themselves and their health???
. Taking the time to exercise.
. Taking the time to prepare healthy, nourishing meals.
. Taking the time to relax and unwind with a cup of tea, feet up and a good book.
. Taking the time to sleep.
. Taking the time to connect socially with friends.
Why, ohhh why do we feel selfish? Is it that giving every little piece of ourselves to everyone else and everything else is somehow unselfish, generous, caring, productive? So often I see and I coach women who put others first to the detriment of their own health and well-being. Somewhere and somehow their own personal needs, fulfillment and priorities get shafted to the bottom of the “To do list” These women are taking care of the kids, the partner, the household chores, the aging parents, their job, the dog, the PTA meeting, the best friends relationship drama, the list goes on………. They have run out of time and deprioritized themselves. Often I find my female clients suffering from health issues such as:
. Stress & overwhelm
. Exhaustion & Lack of energy
. Sleep deprived
. Weight gain
. High blood pressure/cholesterol
. Chronic diseases
They feel stuck, powerless and “selfish” for taking the time for themselves because they have so many other responsibilities, things to do, people to care for………
My answer is always this. You are selfish if you don’t take the time for yourself and your health. We are no good to anyone if we are tired, moody, stressed or sick. Taking the time and prioritizing our health and ourselves is No. 1 on the “to do list’. A stewardess on a plane would instruct you to administer oxygen to yourself first before assisting your child. This is not “selfish” this is commonsense. You need to be healthy, well and breathing to help those around you more effectively. Your health both physically and mentally is of paramount importance to manage and contribute to the health of the rest of the family, work, house, etc….. Your energy, strength, vitality is of utmost importance when it comes to keeping up with all the tasks of a busy mum, wife, daughter, career woman, home owner.
So remember the next time that you feel even a hint of guilt for taking the time to walk in the fresh air whilst the dishes are piled up in the sink. Feel even a drop of selfishness whilst socializing with the girls whilst the accounts remain unbalanced on the kitchen bench. Feel any remorse for having a solid night’s sleep whilst your partner attended to a crying child in the night. Even a taste of regret for the odd exchange of a cold Sunday soccer match for a warm bubble bath. No guilt, no selfishness, no remorse. Just recognition that your health, your strength, your happiness is a healthy priority in looking after your family. Taking the time for yourself is prudent and practical. Every minute that you utilize towards promoting good health is efficient and productive. Your health is No. 1 on the “To do list”.
If you are having struggles with your health and would benefit from the support of a health care professional. Someone that will hear you and help you get unstuck and back onto a healthy track. Contact me for a chat. I am happy to help.